The Life of Nonsmokers -New Normality
A Child In War
When I was 6 years old, civil war broke out in Bosnia. Overnight, my family and I became refugees. We had to leave home to seek safety from death and destruction. Eventually, our town became just safe enough to live in. Yet, every day, we went to school and lived under constant threat of bomb shells.
Children are very resilient. We often heard the whistle of bombs overhead. But we continued with our lives the best we knew how. It was a routine way of living for us, no one thought about long-term effects of that experience.
I eventually went to University to study Economics. It was challenging. I enjoyed it. But there was something different, something I didn’t feel before. I was in an increasing state of anxiety.
It was then, about age 19, I started smoking cigarettes. It was the cool thing to do. Everyone smoked. I fit in! And as students, we never had much money. For a few dollars, we could share a pack of cigarettes and drink coffee all day. The calming effect of less oxygen to my brain helped with my increasing anxiety, and I didn’t feel so bad.
I was smoking a little more. Yet, smoking wasn’t helping enough with the anxiety. I was moving into a depressive phase.
I finished University. The comfort of school was now gone, The harsh truth of adulthood hit me hard. Cigarettes, coffee and the constant search for a job was all I had. It was time to face real life.
I was a degreed Economist. But those jobs were scarce. I secured a Government Tax Officer position. Now I had a stable, Government job. But there was no professional growth. It was unfulfilling.
Worse, common in former Communist countries are bosses who are bosses due to political support; NOT competence. My boss was THE example of that. I constantly had more than my share of abuse from him. My job was unfulfilling with an abusive boss. My anxiety levels were going up fast. I was more depressed than ever. My drinking and smoking greatly increased.
Life sends you what it sends you. You must find ways to deal with it. A few years later there was a great National Disaster that strongly effected the entire population, Shortly after, I suffered a great family loss.
I did not deal well with these matters. My depression deepened. I increased my self-destructive behaviors of drinking and smoking. I hit my all-time low. But I thought to myself, “I have lived through a war. I will live through this!”
I got medical guidance. I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I began to deal with my childhood war experiences that had so greatly impacted me as an adult. I learned of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Neural Linguistic Programming (NLP). I found the tools that would forever change my life for the better.
Crushing the Grip of Nicotine and Breaking the Chains of Addiction
Still battling clinical depression, I raised my self-medicating with cigarettes to 2 packs a day. That’s one EVERY 24 minutes. I did NOT realize their influence on me!!
One week, I had money for 2 days of cigarettes AND food, but wasn’t getting paid for 5 days. I COULDN’T see I had money for 5 days of food if I just DID NOT smoke for 3 days. I thought about NOT eating for 3 days SO I COULD SMOKE!! I was an ADDICT, a SLAVE to nicotine!! It was THAT MOMENT I decided to SMASH the grip of nicotine and BREAK the chains of addiction!! I was in charge, NOT cigarettes!!
A Happy Ending
It was difficult at first. With the CBT and NLP therapies, I have SMASHED the grip of nicotine and have BROKEN the chains of my addiction!!
I am in charge of my thoughts, my actions and my life. The little voice in my head that screamed at me to smoke a cigarette every 24 minutes is now silenced.
I live the life of a Li.O.N.S. (Life of a Non-Smokers), and so can you. We can make the journey together. You CAN do it!! I would be honored to be your guide!!
Li.O.N.S. Institute of Southern Europe! Formally we are located in Doboj, Bosnia and Herzegovina but we are everywhere where are smokers and people impacted by smoking who want to crush the grip of nicotine and break the chains of addiction! And anyone who knows about Li.O.N.S. Smoking Cessation Method, and Li.O.N.S. Institute of Southern Europe and talk to someone who about it, that instantaneously became members of Li.O.N.S. Institute of Southern Europe. We are here to serve you and help each other grow wherever we are!
Author, Li.O.N.S. Smoking Cessation Method
Founder, Li.O.N.S. Institute of Southern Europe
Bosnia and Herzegovina